One of the hardest places to be know confident is in a room full of people that you hardly know... or better yet a room filled with men that you don't know at all. At this point you stoop to comparing your self to (in your eyes)the next best alternative a guy would choose over you. Don't deny it we all do it whether its just a quick glimpse and the thought of "Oh gosh why can't I just have (insert feature here)." However, you will always have something they don't.
I learned this thanks to a really good guy friend of mine. We were talking about how much i hate the way I look. I will admit I'm 19 and slightly over weight it comes to dating what we think is beautiful and ugly is determined by what others (namely men) think is beautiful and ugly. I learned, that one of my features that sticks out among other girls, is my smile (as told to me by a really good guy friend of mine).
Any ways, tonight as a true test of confidence (and two stepping ability) my girl friends and I decided to go to a local country night club. First off, none of us knew anyone there second off we were surrounded by a room full of men that none of us knew. So naturally me and my girl friends stood in a corner by ourselves contemplating how to attack this situation.. and from behind was not an option. Of course, there were a few boys I thought were cute but would I honestly go up to them and try to talk to them. Of course not, I stood there comparing myself to the next best alternative (which just happened to be a girl in booty shorts uggs and a button down shirt tied just enough to cover her baby fat). So I stood there wallowing in self remorse for about 30 seconds and then started talking to this boy standing next to us named Hunter. I mean it wasnt a deep conversation about the meaning of life, it was more of a "hey can you teach me how to play pool" but it still counts. Later in the evening (after a few tries on the dance floor and fantasizing about a couple cute boys that were out dancing), I mustered up enough courage to talk o the one boy i had been eying up for most of the night. His name was Brian. Again this was not a conversation about life by any means it was just a simple "hey nice to meet you" kind of talk. However, guy number 3 approached us. Guy number 3 stayed the longest. His name was Vince.
The goal in all this is, to leave them with something you have that they will never forget. Of course they are always going to remember the girl who wore booty shorts and uggs. (Tomorrow there waking up saying daymn that girl was weather confused.) But I'd rather leave them with "Daymn That girls smile was outrageous. I wish I got her number."
all the more reason to go back next weekend.
So what is the moral of today's story, instead of focusing on what you don't like about your self, find something you love about yourself and show it off
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