Community Service

Today, a group of kids from my school had to do community service for their underages that they got from New Years. Of course they all had to pay fines and had to take Alcohol classes but the community service is the part that gets me the most. Most of the kids that god underages have never done anything to benefit any one other than them selves. So after a full day of community service they all get on facebook and moan and complain about how hard all the work they did was. Of course it was going to be hard manual labor what did you think the court was going to have you do? Pet kittens? Bake Cookies? Community service was meant to get it in your mind that drinking alcohol or doing what ever you did is wrong, and hopefully by making you do what you dont like, You wont get an underage again!

The work out video (The 30 day confidence challenge day 3)

Most girls dread 2 things 1. going the gym and not feeling confident and 2. Going the gym and comparing yourself to the other people there and feeling even less confident then you did when you walked in there. I found a simple (and possibly less expensive way) to work out with out the uncomfortableness of the gym, work out DVD's. Today I decided to do Billy Blanks Tae Bo Boot camp abs. If you ever want to get your butt kicked into shape that would be the series to use. Doing work out Dvd's or even just work outs on TV can make you feel more comfortable with your own physical abilities and let you take things at your own pace. Even with work out videos if you do them two or three times a week you don't feel pressured that you are wasting money on a gym membership and not going everyday.

That color really brings out your personality (30 day confidence challenge day 2)

Every girl needs one thing to make them feel better about them self. This can be some thing like wearing your favorite shirt, blasting your favorite song or even wearing your the most outrageous color nail polish you can find. Whenever I need my own personal confidence boost I paint my nails my favorite shade if pinkish orange and usually i feel more confident about myself. Find a color that brings out your personality whether it is Hot pink bright blue or even neon orange. Still aren't feeling confident?? It never hurts to blast your favorite song. Who cares what it is, play it loud and dance around with one hand waving freely in the air. Write the lyrics somewhere you can see them. Feeling good with yourself when you're by yourself. You can't love others until you love yourself.

Thrown to the wolves (A.k.A. 30 day confidence challenge day 1)

One of the hardest places to be know confident is in a room full of people that you hardly know... or better yet a room filled with men that you don't know at all. At this point you stoop to comparing your self to (in your eyes)the next best alternative a guy would choose over you. Don't deny it we all do it whether its just a quick glimpse and the thought of "Oh gosh why can't I just have (insert feature here)." However, you will always have something they don't.
I learned this thanks to a really good guy friend of mine. We were talking about how much i hate the way I look. I will admit I'm 19 and slightly over weight it comes to dating what we think is beautiful and ugly is determined by what others (namely men) think is beautiful and ugly. I learned, that one of my features that sticks out among other girls, is my smile (as told to me by a really good guy friend of mine).
Any ways, tonight as a true test of confidence (and two stepping ability) my girl friends and I decided to go to a local country night club. First off, none of us knew anyone there second off we were surrounded by a room full of men that none of us knew. So naturally me and my girl friends stood in a corner by ourselves contemplating how to attack this situation.. and from behind was not an option. Of course, there were a few boys I thought were cute but would I honestly go up to them and try to talk to them. Of course not, I stood there comparing myself to the next best alternative (which just happened to be a girl in booty shorts uggs and a button down shirt tied just enough to cover her baby fat). So I stood there wallowing in self remorse for about 30 seconds and then started talking to this boy standing next to us named Hunter. I mean it wasnt a deep conversation about the meaning of life, it was more of a "hey can you teach me how to play pool" but it still counts. Later in the evening (after a few tries on the dance floor and fantasizing about a couple cute boys that were out dancing), I mustered up enough courage to talk o the one boy i had been eying up for most of the night. His name was Brian. Again this was not a conversation about life by any means it was just a simple "hey nice to meet you" kind of talk. However, guy number 3 approached us. Guy number 3 stayed the longest. His name was Vince.
The goal in all this is, to leave them with something you have that they will never forget. Of course they are always going to remember the girl who wore booty shorts and uggs. (Tomorrow there waking up saying daymn that girl was weather confused.) But I'd rather leave them with "Daymn That girls smile was outrageous. I wish I got her number."
all the more reason to go back next weekend.

So what is the moral of today's story, instead of focusing on what you don't like about your self, find something you love about yourself and show it off

The 30 Confidence Challenge (day 0)

The most important weapon a girl carry is confidence. However, some of us, myself included we are lacking in the confidence department. Tomorrow I plan on starting my own personal 30 day confidence challenge. Every day for the next 30 days I plan on some how doing one thing whether it is big or small to make me in some way more confident. The goal is not to change who I am but to be come more comfortable an confident with who I am.
So let the fun begin...